By reaching this point on the journey with Asia Advisers Network and MDRT Bootcamp Master Trainer Jensen Siaw, you have CHOSEN that you want to truly live your life beyond your fears. You are now consciously aware that deep within, all the "reasons" that stop you from doing what you love to do are not real, and they are just disguises of conscious and unconscious fears that trap and cripple you. Are you ready to set your sights?
In case you missed it:
DAY 1: DISCOVERING WHO YOU THINK YOU ARE
DAY 2: MAKING NEW EMPOWERED CHOICES
Day 3: BEING TRUE TO YOUR DESIRES
DAY 4: SETTING YOUR SIGHTS
As with “reason”, your fears are not real too. Firstly, they have yet to happen. So why worry? Secondly, research has shown that 90% of what you fear will not happen. Thirdly, even if what your fears were to happen, you could develop in yourself the physical capability and mental capacity to handle whatever comes your way.
Therefore, free yourself from your fears and set your sights on what your heart desires.
Learning points:
Be very clear about what you want to achieve
If you do not tell the taxi driver the exact location of your destination, can he drive you there? The answer is obvious, isn’t it? The same goes for goals.
If you do not know specifically what is it that you really want to achieve, how would you know how to get there? It is therefore very important to set your sights as clearly as possible. The clearer your goal is, the clearer the how will be, and the more likely you are going to reach it.
If you still do not know what you want, what can you do?
If you do not know what you want, start with what you don’t want. The opposite of what you don’t want is what you want.
For example:
What you don’t want: I don’t want to be financially poor
What you want: I want to be financially comfortable
Next step: what specifically is “financially comfortable”?
That’s what you will do for today’s exercise – Specifying your GOAL
Day 4 Exercise
In Day 3 Exercise, you have discovered from the first question what you would do if you know you couldn’t fail.
From this point, in today’s exercise, you will Chunk Down (a Neuro-Linguistic Programming - NLP technique) into the specific details of your GOAL. Focus on just one GOAL. Let’s begin!
1. If you know that you couldn’t fail, what would you do?
I would _____________________________________________
2. What do you hope to achieve by doing the above? This is your GOAL.
My goal is _____________________________________________
3. How would you know you have achieved your GOAL? What would you See, Hear and Feel? Specifying your GOAL. Write as many as you can.
I would see (e.g. “Lawyer” printed on my name card) _____________________________________________
I would hear (e.g. my girlfriend saying “I do”) _____________________________________________
I would feel (e.g. excited standing on Eiffel Tower) _____________________________________________
Now that you have written down what you would see, hear and feel, close your eyes and VISUALISE.
In your mind, see what you would see, hear what you would hear, and feel what you would feel. Do this EVERYDAY. As you visualise, it is important to FEEL the positive emotions you will experience when you achieve the GOAL.
This is tapping on the power of the LAW OF ATTRACTION.
Stay tuned for Day 5.
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